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Sunday, March 11, 2012

Here and Now March 2012

Cariyana is a Kindergartner at Buffalo Elementary and loves it! She has gained independence with her own button that opens the front door to the school building and she loves it! She likes to wait until everyone is inside and the door closes just to use her button! Cariyana has been VERY healthy this year. We are continuing to visit with doctors at the University of Iowa to look closely at a surgical option to increase the size of her airway. (We continue to insert a tube each night to aid in her breathing) She wears oxygen just at night. The surgery will be quite the deal and require 4 months out of school. They would like to wait until she is 13 to do it. She is only 7. The long wait is not feasible. Cariyana has been in physical or occupational therapy or a twice a week exercise class at the YMCA since June of last year. She is stronger and more participatory. She is a healthy eater and we are working at curbing the increased weight gain! Academically we are also making gains. Though not at the head of her class, she graduated from her IEP!! Yeah!
This little cutie pie is Joe. He loves sweets! We call him cookie monster! He ALWAYS asks before a meal is barely underway, "Whats for dessert?" Joann keeps him in cookies as best she can. Joe loves Kindergarten and all his new pals at Buffalo Elementary. He adores riding the bus! Joe is in the advanced reading group and is constantly trying to say words he encounters in his environment. Joe is the first to arise each morning. Often before the sun!

Alexis in this photo is washing Charley's hair after swimming with a special shampoo and conditioner. Generally they both do this themselves in thier own shower. For whaterver reason on this night he agreed to let her do it. And boy did she have fun! Alexis and Charley get along very well. And of course, he is a good sport! Alexis LOVED being a 6th grader on the Davenport Swim Team. She has not swam as much as some of her teamates who are members of the Metro Swim team but showed she can finish middle of the pack! She concentrates on her stroke and really looks great in the water. Now all she needs is speed and endurance. Even her flip turns are admirable! We will explore a season with Metro for her this spring. Alexis is in ballet at Jenny's Dance Academy every Monday night. She is a Girl Scout and plays violin, flute, and piano!
Charley is a 6th grader at Walcott Junior High. He (and Alexis) joined the Davenport Swim Team this spring. Charley was not quite so sure about it but now after the first season is over states "It was a lot of fun"!.Charley is a good swimmer but needs more endurance. He will get there! Charley continues to be quite the musician playing cello and alto and tenor saxophone and piano! He earned two blue ribbons or ones at solo festival this spring for his cello and saxophone talent! Charley likes school, especially science! Math is his most challenging subject in junior high this year. Charley is a boy scout and attended an Engineering and First Aid merit badge offering so far this spring.

Xavier is 9 years old and a third grader at Rivermont Collegiate. He loves school. He has a great friend Michael who he speaks of often. He loves his mom-ma and offers me unsolicited hugs and kisses every morning. I love you more than you know! Xavier is begining to sound musical at the piano--finally!! I love to listen to you play. You get better each week! Xavier is a webelo scout.


Monday, January 9, 2012

PARADISE written in 2001 by Karen Cummins

Do you believe in signs? I believe God guides us with signs in our daily life to make decisions. All summer we had a plan to camp in the WI Dells. Finally the weekend arrived. Just one day before we were to leave Steve took his truck to be looked at. What was thought to be a minor problem (a squeak and a leak) ended up to be a significant problem. A sign. Perhaps we should stay home.

The weather forecast was for rain all weekend. A sign. Perhaps we should stay home.

We departed for Yogi Bear campground despite the signs. It rained the entire way there. As we approached our destination it became dark we sat in the wrong check-in lane. Later we learned someone ahead of us had lost his or her site and the campground had to locate another. By the time we arrived at our site it was still raining and dark. The site of course was not the easiest to maneuver and kind of dropped off in the rear. It was difficult to maneuver and a complete challenge especially in the dark because this campground thick with trees was not especially well lit. Thank goodness Steve Thompson was able to come to our aide. Not only did it save a marital argument but made and awful situation much easier. By flashlight and umbrella the camper was finally put in its place. This was our first experience setting up the camper in the rain. Steve got out his rain gear and did a great job. Alexis was a real trooper. She sat in the car seat like a champ. Not a whimper or a peep until the very end.

Now the camper is set-up. Its hot and muggy from traveling so we turn on the air and begin to get things settled for our Subway sandwich supper. By this late time, we are starved. It wasn’t long and we had dimmer lights and no A/C. On went the rain gear to peruse the fuse box. Yes, we had blown a fuse. Apparently the box was set-up for a 20 Amp not a 30 S Amp that our camper prefers. Steve changed over to the other fuse already in the box. Now, we were back in action. It’s not long, and we have blown another fuse. By now we determine we cannot run A/C and the lights at the same time. Now we must find some campground assistance. Eventually the camp maintenance runs us down a handful of fuses. “you’ve got a big camper, you might need these.” All the while it is raining, all night it rains.

It is still raining when we arise the next morning to go to Paul Bunyons Shanty for a hearty family style breakfast. The menu included buttermilk donuts (Mmm Mmm soo good), eggs, ham and sausage, fried potatoes, and pancakes. We ate off of metal plates and drink out of metal cups which got very hot with coffee in them. It was a delicious breakfast.

After breakfast we drive around the Dells to look for possible options for a rainy f=day of fun. We had initially planned on Noah’s Ark, which is the Worlds largest outdoor water park. But, now that it was raining, was it even open? We went to check it out. The ticket staff admitted the weather was not to clear, if it began to lightning and thunder the pools and slides would be cleared until the weather passed, no discount on a wristband for inclement weather. Still 25 dollars each to get in. After much discussion we determined we were crazy. We were going to get wet anyway so why not go to the water park in the rain?

We head back to the camper to get our swimsuits and towels. Briefly Steve and I discuss what if one of us gets pneumonia from our decision? I carefully pack all of our dry clothes and towels in garbage bags and place them in the bike trailer that has a rain roof. It will protect our gear and provide a place for Alexis to nap too. We get back in the truck. It is still raining. As luck would have it, the truck gets stuck in the mud. At this point, I say out loud, “It’s a sign!” Alexis and I get out to the truck and head for the camper. We will stay behind to play in the camper while Steve and Nick go with the Thompson’s to the water park. Quickly both Kathi and Steve say “oh no your not, you’re going”. So, we all squeeze in their Yukon and go to Noah’s Ark.

For the first 2 hours it rains. There is even thunder and lightning. They don’t close down a thing. By this time I am saying the Lords Prayer and praying we all stay safe. Alexis doesn’t think too much of the rain on her head. She is non-committal. Not crying, not happy. We find a corner at a little cabaƱa where they sell alcohol. The corner will keep the bike trailer dry and Alexis and I can sit on a stool. Eventually she falls asleep in my arms. The other visitors have on rain ponchos or have umbrellas. Meanwhile the rest of the clan is running the park, which is not very busy (imagine that!) and are enjoying short lines on all the slides, wave pools, bumper boats, and lazy rivers etc.

Eventually the rain stops. They convince me to leave my post and go on a ride. We choose “Flash Flood”. I should have known by the name. It is a roller coaster like boat ride. The boat climbs ever so slowly up to the top (clickety clack, clickety clack), take a big curve, and whoosh down to the bottom you go into a huge wall of water that literally drops on you just when you think you will remain dry. They call this fun. What was a finally dry body is back to being cold and very wet. It begins to rain.

It rains off and on the rest of the afternoon. The Point of No Return (Nick’s greatest accomplishment!) is a 10 story tall water slide where you go nearly straight down on your back in just 3.5 seconds, feet first. Nick loved this one. Steve Thompson and he were the only two who dared try it. Steve Cummins walked up the stairs at one point, watched a few persons go down (air borne) and decided it was not for him. Nick really loved this one. That love was not inherited from his mother. We left the park at 6 p.m., closing.

The rest of the evening was basically uneventful. Nick enjoyed some mini-golf at the campground. Mom and Dad rested. Sunday morning we awoke to sunny skies—not a cloud to be found. We all ate breakfast together—pancakes, eggs, and sausage. Then, we took a hayride with Yogi where we learned a new song….”I know a bear that you don’t know, Yogi, Yogi…” It’s a catchy, cute song. Also within the campground was a petting zoo which Alexis enjoyed. Nick bought some invisible ink at the general store and drove us nuts with that. Then, Steve and Nick headed back out to the Dell’s to ride the go-karts. The Thompson’s headed to mini-golf. Mom and Alexis stayed behind in the camper for “naptime”.

To make a long story short, Nick was in a head-on collision with another go-kart. He returned to the camper with a completely torn leather sandal, a hugely bruised upper arm, a bruised chest, and couldn’t walk on one foot. There was no obvious sign of broken bones—thank goodness!

We headed for home and not even 50 miles from Yogi the “check engine” light is on. By now we think perhaps we have the “Cummins Curse”. After reading the owners manual we pull over ASAP to re-fuel. Back on the road again, the warning light is off. To top off the trip, we miss our Rockford exit and drive 24+ miles out of our way to turn around and head in the right direction.

Upon returning home, I call my Dad (Grandpa Grell) to tell our latest camping story. I knew he would be entertained by it and I could hear him laughing before I called. Sure enough, he did. One thing he said at the end of our conversation-- “At least I knew where paradise was!” He is absolutely right. HOME!

Saturday, December 31, 2011

Charley-isms

December 20 and 21, 2011 Charley had a pretty bad case of the GI bug. It kept him in his room or the bathroom for over 24 hours feeling lousier than most.

December 22, 2011 (Charley's birthday!) Charley awakens and says to me "Mom, at 3 o'clock this morning I woke up and prayed to God to heal me. And this morning, I feel GREAT!"

You'd have to know Charley but we call these realizations of his....Charley-isms...he often looks at the world slightly different than the rest of us. I am not discounting that God healed him, he just did not realize it was likely he was going to feel good after a good nights rest and more passage of time! (like Mom told him he would)

I could have written an entertaining book about motherhood starting years ago...

Thursday, December 29, 2011

Christmas Wishes from Mom (December 2010)

This post was intended for December 2010 but somehow did not get typed. I found it today while organizing and cleaning.

Parents often wish things for their children. Here are my Christmas Wishes from me to you...

Charley---A birth parent visit. I wish I could. Now is not the right time. I hope someday the time will be right. Until then, Aunt Amy will have to do.

Xavier---My wish for you comes from your own Christmas wish "for white skin like you guys". Oh honey, mom and dad cannot provide this. I hope society will be kinder to you than what it has shown to be so far. After all, we have a black president.

Alexis---The gift of music. You are blossoming as a young musician--piano, violin, and flute! We need not ever request your practice. And I love to ear music in the house!

Nick---The gift of foresight and wisdom. My hope is future realization of what our home provided in your formative years.

Cariyana---The gift of love. You missed out on the nurturing normally administered int he first year of life. Its shown now in delays and behavior. We hope the substitutions provided after the fact and the therapy will be enough for successful teenage and adult years.

Joe---The gift of trains. You love them so.

Angie---The gift of acceptance. Time will bring understanding and value of familial relationships and connections.

Saturday, December 24, 2011

Christmas Perspectives









Anyone who knows me knows I struggle with the expectations that Christmas brings. Expectations of me.

First and foremost I am not a shopper. I must admit online shopping is starting to "ease my pain".

Then there is all the places to go which comes with "bring this, here, at this time". I love to see everyone, don't get me wrong. It just gets to be too much. Its stressful.

What I do enjoy is decorating. Aunt Connie comes from Lowden to help me. We make a day of it. Years past she would bring Gramma Grell too. She'd cook and we would decorate. Aunt Connie makes water into wine. I love to have my house decorated for Christmas. She is fabulous at making my house look different each year.


I also enjoy family activities like decorating cookies and our yearly gingerbread house. More traditions. The kids enjoy and look forward to this each year. Then, we give cookies to our favorite people.

A pretty and festive table also brings me enjoyment! Placemats, napkins, accessories, holiday tableware. I love it all. My Gramma Grell used gold silverware each year for Christmas. I have some of my own to continue a special tradition of hers. Its special.

I enjoy writing and sharing our yearly Cummins Christmas letter. There are so many family and out of town friends that we don't get to talk to in-depth or often enough. They enjoy hearing about the family and often say they look forward to receiving this each year. Its also feeds my creative side just like this blog does. It documents a moment in time and allows photos!

Its all about the food. I look forward to the special foods at Christmas. For example, chips and rotel cheese on Christmas Eve. Another tradition begun by Gramma Grell. Cajun shrimp of Uncle Stu's. The snack table. Mmmm Mmmm good. On Christmas Day I make Groten Hans (Big Dumpling) another family favorite. Steve and I have adopted this as our family tradition food wise. Steve's family celebrates with a Mexican feast. Everyone makes the effort to attend.

Another thing I love is the Hardanger ornament I receive each year from my great Auntie Elaine. Very special stitched ornaments. I have one for every year I have been married. They are gorgeous, each and every one. This year I decorated a small tree with only these special handmade ornaments.

But my most favorite part of Christmas is being together in the house with no plans "good old-fashioned downtime" as Stacy Julian calls it. Home in my castle. That is what I enjoy. Even better if there is a big snow and we CAN'T go anywhere. There is always plenty of food on hand and we just get by and do whatever we want!

One Big, Happy Family

We were interviewed for winning the Family Makeover Challenge. The reporter tripped over our family story. It was published 12/23/2011 in the QC Times. The Challenge got very little press. We experienced a fair amount of attention over this well written article. Here is the link:

http://qctimes.com/news/local/couple-adopts-kids-from-state-foster-system/article_7e312304-2d05-11e1-9717-0019bb2963f4.html

Friday, December 23, 2011

Christmas 2011


MERRY CHRISTMAS! It’s been a very busy year at the Cummins residence!

We have a new family member! Nick our oldest, married Angie Bahls June 11th. Nick and Angie live in Rock Island , IL not far from the Augustana College campus where both attend. Nick is majoring in pre-dental. He recently attended an event on campus and learned to suture pigs’ feet. This cemented his interest in a medical profession. Angie is studying speech pathology. She plays bells as one of her side interests and both sing in a gospel choir on campus.

March was also an exciting month. Cariyana was suddenly hospitalized. She and Mom spent 5 days at the University of Iowa Children’s Hospital. Part of which was a stint in the Pediatric Intensive Care Unit after a respiratory illness that forced us to discuss Cariyana’s resuscitation status. It was not a position any parent typically imagines themselves in. Fortunately, she weathered the storm. To combat the newly discovered medical diagnosis we continue to insert an airway each night before she goes to bed. She can almost put it in herself, now! We will be exploring a more permanent (but complex) surgical solution to enlarge her airway with the specialists at the University of Iowa this spring.

Shortly after her discharge, we spent Spring Break in Texas visiting Charley’s birth family. On the way, we stopped at the Oklahoma City Memorial. What a tranquil gorgeous tribute. After the visit we had a much clearer understanding of the magnitude and devastation of the violence that occurred to so many at this site. A must see.

The next night we spent at Fossil Rim a wildlife resort. We were lucky to be there in the off season and had the entire lodge to ourselves which allowed a little more freedom for the kids. The greatest part was the guided tour we took of Fossil Rim itself. Up close giraffes, zebras, ostrich, emu, and all kinds of other animals typically found in the wild from all over the world. It was so awesome! After the guided tour we drove through the park ourselves and fed Kathy the giraffe right from our van (her head fit right through the sunroof). We still have zebra teeth marks on our van to remember the day! It was a visit the kids will never forget.

Then, we spent 3 days on a horse ranch in a fully furnished cabin enjoying the company of Charley’s birth family. We visited Aunt Amy and Uncle Brian and their 3 children—Lindsey, Hayden, and Kayla. We ate some great barbeque, played games, sang, and took walks on the property. Charley met his grandparents for the first time that he can remember. He is named after Charles Houston Massey his grandfather. The only thing we missed was a visit from a nearby cousin of Karen’s. Sometimes timing does not work!

The summer flew by after the wedding. Although we spent as many weekends camping at the Lake as possible we did not spend as much time as we would have liked. We enjoyed some great laughs, roaring fires, and Sunday morning Bloody Marys on the deck with our lakefront neighbor the Durhams.

The end of July brought a visit to the New Jersey Shore. We caravanned this year taking both of our Honda Odyssey’s to allow Nick and Angie to tag along. It worked out quite well actually. Boys in one van. Girls in the other. We had a great time at the beach for a week in Sea Isle. I wish I could have included more photos of parasailing and fishing in the bay. A great time was had by all.

Fall has brought the start of school. Alexis (11) and Charley (12) are in junior high in Walcott as 6th graders. They seem to have transitioned very well. Both tried out for Jazz Band (flute and alto sax). Add that to band (flute and Tenor sax), orchestra (violin and cello), piano, weekly swimming lessons, and scouting for both of them and they are very busy kids. Plus Alexis has fit in Lego League and ballet!

Xavier (nearly 9) is following in big brother Nick’s footsteps and has joined Rivermont Collegiate for third grade and beyond. He loves it at Rivermont and has several new buddies including a favorite named Michael. Xavier plays piano, takes weekly swimming lessons, and is in scouting. In May, Xavier celebrated his First Communion. He is so happy he can now partake in Communion.

Joe (6) and Cariyana (soon to be 7) both started Kindergarten this fall at Buffalo Elementary. The change from Blue Grass to Buffalo had to happen to allow for better accommodations for Cariyana and her lifelong height challenges. A newer school just makes more sense. Soon with the addition of a simple wearable push button device she will be able to open the front door of the school all by herself (instead of swinging her lunch bag at the not quite reachable handicap button)! We have my friend Jon at St. Ambrose Adaptive Design lab to thank for that idea! Joe and Cariyana are in the same classroom and are getting along famously and doing very well academically. The hope is Cariyana will escape her IEP this spring. It’s been a long haul!

We can’t believe how big all the kids are getting!! The only thing that remains the same (well almost) is Karen’s position as Assistant Professor at Trinity College and Steve’s at John Deere Cylinder. It seems every career is fraught with the need to do more with less these days. We are working as hard as ever. Karen had 51 students in her course this fall. And if you ever want to chat with Steve, call first. One never knows what hours he will be working or how long it will be on a given day. Jerry and Joann Ray are our daily blessing. They are at the house most afternoons holding down the fort until we get home. We could not live this life without them!

Fall also brought another change for the Cummins. We applied to enter a contest and represent the West YMCA and West Locust Hyvee in the Healthy Family Makeover Challenge. We competed against other local families. It was an 8-week challenge consisting of working out with the help of a weekly Wellness Coach and bi-weekly consultations with our Hyvee dietitian. It’s been a great experience! For the 8 weeks of the challenge we (Steve and I) worked out at the YMCA consistently 6 days per week. The kids worked out 3-4 days per week by attending a Kids Fit Class on Mondays and Wednesdays or participating in open gym, zumba or playing racquetball. As part of our goals of the challenge we had to record in a food diary everything all seven of us ate for 8 weeks! That was tough but boy did we learn a lot! Read our blog (web address below) for more detail on diet changes and work out progress! We are continuing in our journey and are proud to report continued lost pounds and inches! We won the Challenge and have been featured on Paula Sands Live, the Dispatch, and look for front page coverage 12/23 or Christmas Eve in the QC Times.

Our Healthy Family Challenge Blog----http://cumminshealthyfamilychallenge.blogspot.com/

It’s a busy life! Until next year…blessings to you and yours! Remember the reason for the season. Merry Christmas!

The Cummins Family—Steve, Karen, Alexis, Charley, Xavier, Joe, and Cariyana

Matthew 1:21 “She will bear a Son, and you are to name him Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins.”