Charley-isms

December 20 and 21, 2011 Charley had a pretty bad case of the GI bug. It kept him in his room or the bathroom for over 24 hours feeling lousier than most.

December 22, 2011 (Charley's birthday!) Charley awakens and says to me "Mom, at 3 o'clock this morning I woke up and prayed to God to heal me. And this morning, I feel GREAT!"

You'd have to know Charley but we call these realizations of his....Charley-isms...he often looks at the world slightly different than the rest of us. I am not discounting that God healed him, he just did not realize it was likely he was going to feel good after a good nights rest and more passage of time! (like Mom told him he would)

I could have written an entertaining book about motherhood starting years ago...

Christmas Wishes from Mom (December 2010)

This post was intended for December 2010 but somehow did not get typed. I found it today while organizing and cleaning.

Parents often wish things for their children. Here are my Christmas Wishes from me to you...

Charley---A birth parent visit. I wish I could. Now is not the right time. I hope someday the time will be right. Until then, Aunt Amy will have to do.

Xavier---My wish for you comes from your own Christmas wish "for white skin like you guys". Oh honey, mom and dad cannot provide this. I hope society will be kinder to you than what it has shown to be so far. After all, we have a black president.

Alexis---The gift of music. You are blossoming as a young musician--piano, violin, and flute! We need not ever request your practice. And I love to ear music in the house!

Nick---The gift of foresight and wisdom. My hope is future realization of what our home provided in your formative years.

Cariyana---The gift of love. You missed out on the nurturing normally administered int he first year of life. Its shown now in delays and behavior. We hope the substitutions provided after the fact and the therapy will be enough for successful teenage and adult years.

Joe---The gift of trains. You love them so.

Angie---The gift of acceptance. Time will bring understanding and value of familial relationships and connections.

Christmas Perspectives

Anyone who knows me knows I struggle with the expectations that Christmas brings. Expectations of me.

First and foremost I am not a shopper. I must admit online shopping is starting to "ease my pain".

Then there is all the places to go which comes with "bring this, here, at this time". I love to see everyone, don't get me wrong. It just gets to be too much. Its stressful.

What I do enjoy is decorating. Aunt Connie comes from Lowden to help me. We make a day of it. Years past she would bring Gramma Grell too. She'd cook and we would decorate. Aunt Connie makes water into wine. I love to have my house decorated for Christmas. She is fabulous at making my house look different each year.


I also enjoy family activities like decorating cookies and our yearly gingerbread house. More traditions. The kids enjoy and look forward to this each year. Then, we give cookies to our favorite people.

A pretty and festive table also brings me enjoyment! Placemats, napkins, accessories, holiday tableware. I love it all. My Gramma Grell used gold silverware each year for Christmas. I have some of my own to continue a special tradition of hers. Its special.

I enjoy writing and sharing our yearly Cummins Christmas letter. There are so many family and out of town friends that we don't get to talk to in-depth or often enough. They enjoy hearing about the family and often say they look forward to receiving this each year. Its also feeds my creative side just like this blog does. It documents a moment in time and allows photos!

Its all about the food. I look forward to the special foods at Christmas. For example, chips and rotel cheese on Christmas Eve. Another tradition begun by Gramma Grell. Cajun shrimp of Uncle Stu's. The snack table. Mmmm Mmmm good. On Christmas Day I make Groten Hans (Big Dumpling) another family favorite. Steve and I have adopted this as our family tradition food wise. Steve's family celebrates with a Mexican feast. Everyone makes the effort to attend.

Another thing I love is the Hardanger ornament I receive each year from my great Auntie Elaine. Very special stitched ornaments. I have one for every year I have been married. They are gorgeous, each and every one. This year I decorated a small tree with only these special handmade ornaments.

But my most favorite part of Christmas is being together in the house with no plans "good old-fashioned downtime" as Stacy Julian calls it. Home in my castle. That is what I enjoy. Even better if there is a big snow and we CAN'T go anywhere. There is always plenty of food on hand and we just get by and do whatever we want!

One Big, Happy Family

We were interviewed for winning the Family Makeover Challenge. The reporter tripped over our family story. It was published 12/23/2011 in the QC Times. The Challenge got very little press. We experienced a fair amount of attention over this well written article. Here is the link:

http://qctimes.com/news/local/couple-adopts-kids-from-state-foster-system/article_7e312304-2d05-11e1-9717-0019bb2963f4.html

Christmas 2011

MERRY CHRISTMAS! It’s been a very busy year at the Cummins residence!

We have a new family member! Nick our oldest, married Angie Bahls June 11^th. Nick and Angie live in Rock Island , IL not far from the Augustana College campus where both attend. Nick is majoring in pre-dental. He recently attended an event on campus and learned to suture pigs’ feet. This cemented his interest in a medical profession. Angie is studying speech pathology. She plays bells as one of her side interests and both sing in a gospel choir on campus.

March was also an exciting month. Cariyana was suddenly hospitalized. She and Mom spent 5 days at the University of Iowa Children’s Hospital. Part of which was a stint in the Pediatric Intensive Care Unit after a respiratory illness that forced us to discuss Cariyana’s resuscitation status. It was not a position any parent typically imagines themselves in. Fortunately, she weathered the storm. To combat the newly discovered medical diagnosis we continue to insert an airway each night before she goes to bed. She can almost put it in herself, now! We will be exploring a more permanent (but complex) surgical solution to enlarge her airway with the specialists at the University of Iowa this spring.

Shortly after her discharge, we spent Spring Break in Texas visiting Charley’s birth family. On the way, we stopped at the Oklahoma City Memorial. What a tranquil gorgeous tribute. After the visit we had a much clearer understanding of the magnitude and devastation of the violence that occurred to so many at this site. A must see.

The next night we spent at Fossil Rim a wildlife resort. We were lucky to be there in the off season and had the entire lodge to ourselves which allowed a little more freedom for the kids. The greatest part was the guided tour we took of Fossil Rim itself. Up close giraffes, zebras, ostrich, emu, and all kinds of other animals typically found in the wild from all over the world. It was so awesome! After the guided tour we drove through the park ourselves and fed Kathy the giraffe right from our van (her head fit right through the sunroof). We still have zebra teeth marks on our van to remember the day! It was a visit the kids will never forget.

Then, we spent 3 days on a horse ranch in a fully furnished cabin enjoying the company of Charley’s birth family. We visited Aunt Amy and Uncle Brian and their 3 children—Lindsey, Hayden, and Kayla. We ate some great barbeque, played games, sang, and took walks on the property. Charley met his grandparents for the first time that he can remember. He is named after Charles Houston Massey his grandfather. The only thing we missed was a visit from a nearby cousin of Karen’s. Sometimes timing does not work!

The summer flew by after the wedding. Although we spent as many weekends camping at the Lake as possible we did not spend as much time as we would have liked. We enjoyed some great laughs, roaring fires, and Sunday morning Bloody Marys on the deck with our lakefront neighbor the Durhams.

The end of July brought a visit to the New Jersey Shore. We caravanned this year taking both of our Honda Odyssey’s to allow Nick and Angie to tag along. It worked out quite well actually. Boys in one van. Girls in the other. We had a great time at the beach for a week in Sea Isle. I wish I could have included more photos of parasailing and fishing in the bay. A great time was had by all.

Fall has brought the start of school. Alexis (11) and Charley (12) are in junior high in Walcott as 6^th graders. They seem to have transitioned very well. Both tried out for Jazz Band (flute and alto sax). Add that to band (flute and Tenor sax), orchestra (violin and cello), piano, weekly swimming lessons, and scouting for both of them and they are very busy kids. Plus Alexis has fit in Lego League and ballet!

Xavier (nearly 9) is following in big brother Nick’s footsteps and has joined Rivermont Collegiate for third grade and beyond. He loves it at Rivermont and has several new buddies including a favorite named Michael. Xavier plays piano, takes weekly swimming lessons, and is in scouting. In May, Xavier celebrated his First Communion. He is so happy he can now partake in Communion.

Joe (6) and Cariyana (soon to be 7) both started Kindergarten this fall at Buffalo Elementary. The change from Blue Grass to Buffalo had to happen to allow for better accommodations for Cariyana and her lifelong height challenges. A newer school just makes more sense. Soon with the addition of a simple wearable push button device she will be able to open the front door of the school all by herself (instead of swinging her lunch bag at the not quite reachable handicap button)! We have my friend Jon at St. Ambrose Adaptive Design lab to thank for that idea! Joe and Cariyana are in the same classroom and are getting along famously and doing very well academically. The hope is Cariyana will escape her IEP this spring. It’s been a long haul!

We can’t believe how big all the kids are getting!! The only thing that remains the same (well almost) is Karen’s position as Assistant Professor at Trinity College and Steve’s at John Deere Cylinder. It seems every career is fraught with the need to do more with less these days. We are working as hard as ever. Karen had 51 students in her course this fall. And if you ever want to chat with Steve, call first. One never knows what hours he will be working or how long it will be on a given day. Jerry and Joann Ray are our daily blessing. They are at the house most afternoons holding down the fort until we get home. We could not live this life without them!

Fall also brought another change for the Cummins. We applied to enter a contest and represent the West YMCA and West Locust Hyvee in the Healthy Family Makeover Challenge. We competed against other local families. It was an 8-week challenge consisting of working out with the help of a weekly Wellness Coach and bi-weekly consultations with our Hyvee dietitian. It’s been a great experience! For the 8 weeks of the challenge we (Steve and I) worked out at the YMCA consistently 6 days per week. The kids worked out 3-4 days per week by attending a Kids Fit Class on Mondays and Wednesdays or participating in open gym, zumba or playing racquetball. As part of our goals of the challenge we had to record in a food diary everything all seven of us ate for 8 weeks! That was tough but boy did we learn a lot! Read our blog (web address below) for more detail on diet changes and work out progress! We are continuing in our journey and are proud to report continued lost pounds and inches! We won the Challenge and have been featured on Paula Sands Live, the Dispatch, and look for front page coverage 12/23 or Christmas Eve in the QC Times.

Our Healthy Family Challenge Blog----http://cumminshealthyfamilychallenge.blogspot.com/

It’s a busy life! Until next year…blessings to you and yours! Remember the reason for the season. Merry Christmas!

The Cummins Family—Steve, Karen, Alexis, Charley, Xavier, Joe, and Cariyana

Matthew 1:21 “She will bear a Son, and you are to name him Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins.”

It is Finished!

Its over. Its done. The wedding. My first born. I love him. I love her. I love them. Together we and they will find a way. Its a process. Until you experience it, you will not understand. For all my stress, worry, and concern. It is finished. God's will be done.

This day, here and now April 2011

Where are we, what are we doing...a quick review.
Nick...
He now 19, is finishing his Sophmore year at Augustana College. A fine young man, still trying to discover his life career. Dentistry and chiropractic still in the running for his wanted health career. He is working 3 hours a day at Rivermont Collegiate doing after school care for elementary age children 4 days per week. He seems to enjoy the antics and I guess home has prepared him for the role! He is looking forward to an upcoming Groom's Shower being given in his honor by his Uncles Chris and Kevin Grell.

Alexis...
Just had her 11th birthday at MyDesign, Inc., a beading and blending shoppe. Oh my! It was a big hit for her and her 6 girlfriends! Alexis loves playing the piano and I never have to ask her to practice. She goes to the piano often just to play! This week is the spring chorus concert--her last of the elementary era complete with a Daddy Daughter dance number. Oh the anticipation!

Charley...
Also age 11. He has just moved up to the ranks of Boy Scout! He has attended 2 campouts so far and is loving it! He is readying too for the spring chorus concert--a pirate theme! He is also practicing his music--Alto Sax, piano, and cello!

Xavier...
He is 8! Lots of first this year...1st Pinewood Derby Race is tomorrow evening. The car is ready and he is past ready! He will celebrate his First Communion in 2 weeks on Mothers Day Weekend. The boy is growing--arms and legs especially---new dress clothes will be a must with this new body! He has a Boyz Hip Hop Dance recital coming up. First all boys class!

Joe...
Joe is 5 and becoming so articulate. He practices his new found preschool knowledge daily--patterns, rhyming, all the beginnings for future success. He loves school. He has his very first loose tooth! "Mom, it's wiggly, will it hurt when it comes out?" He wanted us to be sure and remind the Easter Bunny how much he loves trains and wonders when we might take a ride on a subway train....I guess I will have to get to work on that!

Cariyana...
She has had an eventful spring at age 6 with a hospitalization and now the croup. She is surviving the nightly nasal trumpet insertions and keeping mom hopping with all kinds of follow-up doctor and multiple therapy apts. She finally seems ready for the Kindergarten Academics in the fall...yeah! She too loves school at Hayes.

Steve...
Keeps busy being the daily chauffeur for all the kids to lessons, scouts, dance, and so on. He has gotten the yard in shape with Nick's help in anticipation of a very busy early summer with bridal showers, the wedding, and out of town guests. Without early action it would all be in ruins by the time we are rested up to take care of things. He is anticipating a much needed addition to the garage as soon as the "rainy season" leaves us. It appears Steve will move once again to second shift. Still not enough seniority to maintain his day shift position at John Deere.

Karen...
Me? I am kept busy continually by trying to keep everyone organized, prepared, and ready for the next day of events. It's a job and I already have one! Thank goodness for Jerry and Joann's help! Its a busy life but I would not have it any other way! We are so blessed. I look forward to my time with my best of friends preserving my memories for myself and others in the years to come! I am looking ahead toward June when I will enroll in an online Photo Freedom course!

Spring Break 2011

We all loved the giraffes. Pictured here is Kathy, so soft and a gentle nibbler!
In the morning the kids looked down the canyon, anticipating what the day might bring...
We stayed at the Fossil Rim Wildlife Center one night. We had the lodge to ourselves. We had 2 of the 5 rooms in the lodge with access to a beautiful establishment including Steve's favorite this self serve bar. Just make a drink, write it down, its the honor system.

Oklahoma City Memorial--by far the most meaningful place I have visited in my life. It's a must see.



With Cariyana out of the hospital for just 36 hours, it was a push to pack and go. Me being the planner that I am...tried to pack for anything. Lucky for me, I had packed the suitcases the weekend before in anticipation of the trip. And Fran had kept the laundry up-to-date while I was gone for 5 days. I regret not packing winter coats. Otherwise, we were set!

Cousins in Texas Blue Bonnets

Our purpose of Spring Break this year was to travel to Texas to meet Charley's birth connections. Its been almost 8 years since we took Charley into our home and 6+ years since he has seen his Aunt Amy and Uncle Brian and their children Hayden, Kayla, and Lindsey. Time sure flies and children grow up! We had a great visit and would do it again. The kids all played and got acquainted, the adults visited, and ate well!

We also met Charley's great grandparents who Charley had not met and for whom Charley was named. Charles Houston Massey. Charley is now Charles Houston Cummins. That introduction also went well and we had a great visit one afternoon.

Our only regret was not having more time. With Cariyana's recent hospitalization, the trip had to be trimmed down. And Granbury, Texas is 16 hours from Blue Grass.

Life is Difficult

At my last confession one of my favorite priests gave me the following prayer. Its so fitting, I want to preserve it.

Dear God, life is difficult.
Help me realize this great truth
and not moan and groan and complain about my problems
as if life were easy or should be easy.

Teach me to name my real problems, to face them squarely,
and to work untiringly toward solving them,
or, if this is not possible,
then to endure them with courage.

Help me to be open to all the ways
you come into my life:
whether as gentle breeze, troublesome earthquake,
or something in between.

May the difficulties I experienced bear only good fruit:
sensitivity, compassion, patience, humility,
and discovering my desire for you.
God, I ask for all these things
through Jesus
and the gentle, yet earth-shaking power of the Spirit.

Amen

Cariyana's toil

At a Pulmonary appointment in December 2010, I registered my ongoing concern for Cariyana's sleep patterns. I was told the doctor would discuss it with the sleep specialist and get back to me. I never heard anything. Since then, I have learned he did in fact discuss it with others. "They" are not sure that there is much more to be done to increase the size of Cariyana's airway. She has already had her tonsils, adnoids, and uvula removed.

Prior to March 20th, we had been concerned about Cariyana's worsening night time breathing for about 5 days. Loud, restless, talking in her sleep, get her up to the toilet and she falls asleep on the toilet and even fell off the toilet! I called Iowa City Childrens specialty clinic with my concern for Dr. Smith, pulmonologist. They would have he and/or the sleep specialist call me. The nurse advised for me to tell them my credentials to be sure I was heard. She remembers Cariyana from her birth.

March 21st--I had Cariyana sleep on my office floor so I could keep an eye on her and her pulse oximeter readings. I did everything I could to try to get her numbers to stay up where they should (greater than 90) including jacking up the oxygen. She was so restless, arching her back (trying to open her airway), she was just miserable, but desperately tired. I wondered at this point if our pulse oximeter was accurate with some numbers as low as 68%. I finally turned off the pulse ox and went to bed. The next morning, she awoke as usual, and went to school. Only one thing was different. I found her sleeping on the bedroom floor. Nothing different than usual really, occasionally she has been known to fall out of bed. She must have fallen out, and decided to just sleep there.

Tuesday, March 22nd--The school nurse called. Cariyana had been sent to her due to coughing. She was not herself--quiet (she is usually VERY chatty), appeared lethargic, and her pulse ox was 82%. A room air pulse ox for Cariyana when awake of 82% is unusual. I made an appointment for 11:30 with Dr. Anderson and rushed out of the office to pick her up. Dr. Anderson took one look at Cariyana sleeping in my arms and said for the staff to call the ambulance and told me she would get a helicopter ride today. Cariyana went by ambulance from the doctors office with low pulse oximeter readings (in the 80s). She was fine as long as she was awake. Sleeping she was so much worse. Our first stop to get to the University of Iowa where we needed to be was Genesis East ER.

Dr. Anderson's last words to me were, "be sure she is evaluated for recurrent brain stem compression causing any of this apnea". Cariyana had decompression surgery at around 9 months.

Dr. Dela Cruz, a long time ER doctor at Genesis, was not overly impressed with Cariyana's condition. Again, as long as she was awake, she was fine. And of course she was interested in what was going on (especially if there were needles involved!). After labwork and an x-ray, we were sent on to Iowa City by ground ambulance.

Once we were triaged in the ER there, we were admitted to the inpatient pediatric floor. Dr. Volk and Dr. Smith saw us almost immediately. I was impressed at the attention paid to us and the speed of their arrival. Of course, it was nearing 5 pm! Dr. Smith stated he had received my message. But, he did not have any ideas or suggestions after speaking to the sleep specialists. All that could be done, had been done. He just had not had time for 2 days to call me. At least he was honest?

Dr. Volk declared the tentative diagnosis was sleep apnea and we would try a CPAP apparatus at bedtime. It would take a little experimentation to see if we could find a mask to fit. We would also undergo allergy testing the following day related to the last one month of runny nose. I asked for a crib instead of a regular hospital bed like most 6 year olds could use. I would not be able to sleep myself if I had to watch her fitfully sleep again tonight.

They tried CPAP, the mask would not work, it was too big, or too small, or she would toss and turn so it would not stay on. They tried to rig it with extra straps, to no avail. I was concerned she might have to go on the ventilator. There was also discussion about a tracheotomy as the only remaining treatment. There were so many at her bedside all night long! Her nurse Alex was really worried. I was there the whole time. But to me, what I was seeing was no different than the night before. I guess I was oblivious to the nearing gravity of the situation. What was different was our ability to monitor her vital signs and labwork, especially her venous blood gases which at that point I was not paying much attention to.

Cariyana tossed and turned. Envision a fish that you just pulled from a lake flipping around on the ground. When she was apneic, she would arch her back to self correct the position of her airway. No wonder she often complained of a headache in the mornings with her positioning. And of course the snoring respirations. The pulse ox kept lowering over the night. Initially just in the 80's, then 70's. But I had seen 68 the night before at home. She was in a crib thank goodness, to keep her safe. She wore out somewhere between 9 and 1 that night.

The pediatric fellow had me call Steve at 1 a.m. to discuss resuscitation status because of her deterioration. That was not a discussion we were planning on having. It took us by surprise. But she was bad. I now wish I had video of her thrashing. Would have been great to add to my Cariyana case study I usually do for students in the spring!! (Sad, huh, I am always thinking of how to spice it up for them!)

Now they had my attention. Code status. That meant she was in jeopardy of arresting or perhaps even dying. What does that mean? I called Steve. What do we want to do? Clearly we do not want a child on the ventilator, nor with a long term trache. We have been through so much already. It would grossly change our family life again. I called my dear friend Kenna who offered to come and also drive Steve who had been working 10-12 hours a day and who rarely got enough sleep working 3 a. m. to 3:30 p.m. I was afraid for him to drive. I was afraid we would need to make decisions on the phone while he drove. I called Joann, the only other one who truly knows what it is like to care for Cariyana and a chronically ill child with a complex medical history. She did not offer much advice other than to try to hold off until morning to make a final decision.

By 2:30 a.m. Cariyana went to the PICU (Pediatric Intensive Care Unit) with pulse ox's dipping into the upper 50's and 4 -5 episodes of apnea per minute. Nothing they tried including high flow oxygen and cpap made a difference. They even tried stomach positioning (on a tower of pillows) to get her tongue to drop forward. It became clear that the tongue was the issue. It was obstructing her airway. Her CO2 level is now 100!

Finally, in the PICU they placed a very narrow nasal trumpet (long tube into the nose that holds the tongue forward) with instant improvement. Her heart rate dropped from 160 to down into the 90's. Pulse ox 90-100% consistently. No stridor (loud snoring respirations). Finally relief for her!! It was instantaneous. Within 30 minutes her CO2 was back down to 68. By the time Steve and Kenna arrived she was resting comfortably.

Wednesday, March 23rd--They sedated her and she slept the entire day. She did not awaken to move a finger or turn. Sleep deprivation, exhaustion. I don't believe she needed the sedation. She would have slept regardless. She was so tired just from trying to breathe. Each time we awoke her to give her medicine, she was so hard to get awake and stay awake. Like she was drunk.

They removed the sedative around noon. About 4pm yesterday they moved us to a monitored pediatric bed. She slept through the entire transfer. At 5:30 she woke up and was awake about 40 min and did not fall asleep while sitting up. A first for her!

She remained on 6 L hi flow oxygen (hi flow oxygen is something you usually see in infants). The plan was to sleep, then slow weaning of the oxygen to make sure fluids go to the appropriate spaces, placed her on sulfenadil (its VIAGRA!!) for her assumed recurrent pulmonary hypertension. She now has significant cardiomegaly (enlarged heart) since her last chest x-ray in October. They performed an ecchocardiogram (ultrasound of the heart), it does not appear much different than last year at least unofficially. That is very good news.

A plan was made for Thursday. A nuerology consult will talked of to assure there is no recurrent brain stem compression causing any of the apnea of last night. She was to just sleep. She needs to catch up. The crisis portion of our stay is over. The nasal trumpet could be something we do at home for a temporary fix to keep her tongue out of her throat for better breathing. But we need a more permanent solution. Perhaps some surgery in the future to make her airway slightly larger. Bring her mandible forward, do "something" to her tongue. This next step would be planned well with a team. Cariyana is very complex.

Thursday, March 24th--Cariyana's blood gases were much better with a CO2 of 48 vs. 64 of yesterday. She is still on the hi flow oxygen but they may start to wean it down. I hope the trumpet can come out or at least be moved to the other nare (nostril). Its bleeding and sore. And all Cariyana did was sleep today.

Friday, March 25th--My link to the world during this hospitalization was my laptop. I cannot imagine what it would have been like without it.

Cariyana is off oxygen and saturating 94-96% on room air. They did not remove the nasal trumpet yesterday. The wanted to do a slow wean of oxygen first. I am getting bored and a little hungry for adult conversation!

Cariyana has a fever 101.4. I am thinking atelectasis related to her not doing her CPT vest all this week. That is one thing we do religiously each day and if she were ill I would do it 2-3 times in a day based on how her lungs sounded. I suggested CPT to the resident yesterday....not ordered or not done. What do I know? The nurse got me a manual percusser this morning and I did it myself. They removed the nasal trumpet after lunch today. I will get to reinsert it tonight before bedtime.

Cariyana's blood pressure has been running 150/110's with a rare normal one thrown in here and there. A nephrologist has been consulted. To my knowledge her blood work has all been normal. The nephrologist does not want to treat her blood pressure. He said there is concern for her lungs if we do. With his preliminary view of the records it does not appear the hypertension has affected her systemically. Instead, we will monitor her blood pressure twice a day and FAX the results in to the office. She underwent a kidney ultrasound late today. I did not get any results but assume it was normal.

Saturday, March 26th--Insertion of the nasal trumpet by mom last night went well. Her oxygen tubing helps to hold it in overnight. Cariyana did not have much anticipation of the event (her co2 was 100 the last time it was inserted) and it went well. It took her about 20 minutes to adjust to the sensation (cough and gag0. She left it in all night. She barely moves now when she sleeps. I have never seen her rest so well.

No fever through the night (We did CPT yesterday).

IF the next two or three nights at home go as easily as last night we may even go with the rest of my family to Texas as planned for Spring Break.

Cariyana and I finally made it home Saturday night. As it ends up the pulmonary and cardiac docs could not agree on treatment (viagra or not).

So, we came home with f/u apts in a few weeks from ENT, pulmonary, and cardiac.

Cariyana's saturation on room air is back to baseline. In order to sleep now we must insert a nasal trumpet. She hates the insertion of course and it takes her about 20 min to get over the gag and find a restful place in order to fall asleep. So far so good. We inserted it "family meeting" style last night. Steve and Nick will need to learn. The other kids will likely participate with the removal over time.

We have issues to sort out and clarify--cardiomegaly, pulmonary hypertension, whether to resume suldenafil (viagra), and she has now developed marked hypertension (150/110) which they do not want to treat due to its potential effect on her lung status.

In the end now it has been made clear. Her chronic elevations of co2 related to her obstructive sleep apnea is what lead us to this point. The sleep apnea cannot be treated with cpap--its a tongue issue. (In the future I still plan to request a cpap trial to convince me that high pressure will not help. I think I need to be convinced before allowing them to suggest what seems to me to be pretty invasive surgery like removing part of her tongue.) Apparently the face grows during adolescence in normal persons. If that is the timing for achondroplasia children, that is 6 years off. The nasal trumpet until then seems harmful to me and to all but the ENT doc who was quite flip with me in the PICU.

If I were advising someone else about leaving on vacation I would tell them no. We are going to prepare to leave but trim our time gone. Charley will be broken-hearted if we don't go to Texas to see his birth family. My husband does not relish the trip without me as the coordinator/communicator. He is a great support person but takes a back seat to many of these kids birth family connections. I truly believe Charley will be a better teenager with this visit completed.

So, that is the story. We are heading to Texas. It won't be the trip we planned but we will have some fun seeing the Oklahoma City Memorial and at the Fossil Rim Wildlife Center. Plus the whole birth family thing.

Dr. Anderson has been updated. He is not supportive of the trip exactly but said "you do know where the medical centers are along the way, don't you?" Iowa City docs said I could go if I am comfortable.

This has been very therapeutic for me to write out this experience and it certainly clearly outlines how complex Cariyana really is medically.

"Bite Me"

This story was revealed to me at an IEP meeting at Hayes School where Cariyana is a student in a special ed classroom. Everyone always comments how cute she is. This is part of the reason why.

One day a week or so she is taken out of her classroom to work with the speech pathologist wither alone or in a group. A while back the speech pathologist was walking her 3 students down the long haul to her classroom. She says she always tries to make that walk "language rich". This particular day, they were walking in a line and the conversation went something like this...."Whose in front?"--Matthew!" they replied. Whose in back?" "Kristen!" they said. "Whose in the middle?" "Cariyana!" they say.

The speech pathologist then says "Today we have a Cariyana sandwich!"

Without skipping a beat Cariyana says "Bite me!"

A Parents Hope

All our hopes and dreams are invested in you. Be wise my son. Forever after.